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Flowers For Graves

Flowers For Graves | Grave Decorations

It is always a sad time when someone you care for passes as well sometimes flowers for graves can help at least a little. The idea of using and giving cemetery decoration is very old going back at least thousands of years. They are deeply symbolic so here is what they represent.

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No matter what the flowers are such as silk sympathy flowers, artificial funeral wreaths or cemetery memorial flowers or others sends out the massage that you care for them and their departed. You are also expressing your condolences – but there are lots of type of the best artificial flowers for graves.

Silk funeral wreaths can be placed anywhere from the funeral home to the grave site. What they are made of and their colors is often a matter of taste so asking the funeral arranger makes sense to avoid mistakes. Artificial casket flowers usually go to the funeral home first and are quite big. Normally the are put on the side of or on top of the casket. Here you see one of the advantages of silk flowers – funerals are often arranged at short notice and faux flowers can be delivered very quickly with little worry of availability.

Headstone saddle sprays obviously sit on the headstone, but there are also silk funeral sprays that are displayed beside the casket or on an easel.

Artificial sympathy arrangement can sometimes be sent to the bereaved families home but also to say a church. The ones that go to a church can be in the shape of a cross.

Naturally there is a super large range with also naturally a wide price range. Check with the person arranging the funeral what would be expected and appropriate and keep to your budget.

The hope of the funeral flowers is that they not only express your feelings but in some ways reduce the stresses of the day at least a little. The types of flowers that are seen most often are carnations and roses but that changes with tastes of the time and the people involved. Those two types of faux flowers are often used as to tend to express best the somber feel of the occasion rather than other flowers.

Naturally with any sort of arrangements other silk flowers can be added such as delphiniums, asters or Gerber daisy flowers. Adding them to the old favorites of carnation and rose cab brighten the atmosphere a little with their color and size range.

All Soul’s Day Story

First Recall

What usually comes into our minds when the month of November in the USA is approaching? Is it the long holidays? Travel? Family reunions? Or the memories of our departed loved ones? All Saints’ Day celebrated every 1st of November and All Souls’ Day a day after.

In this fast and ‘instant’ age where internet, communication gadgets and various events from the past month compete with our attention with family traditions and events, remembering our loved ones in the cemetery or memorial parks seemed quite a challenge nowadays. It really takes our precious time to spend in the place where the departed are laid to rest. More if your current location is far from where there are buried. It’s either boring or time-consuming.

A Different Get-Together

Yesterday, November 1, All Saints’ Day my husband’s immediate family members headed by my mother-in-law and siblings led the preparation in visiting her departed husband, their brother, nephew, grandmother, mother and even cousin-in-law all in one place which looked like a garden from a distance. We went there before lunch and from then on relatives begin to arrive and an instant reunion took place. Not to mention computer games and indoor games co-existed in the said event for the dead. Worst, I am not in favor of staying even there for a short while in a place surrounded by tombs and graves.

Out of the laughter and the usual greetings, chats and updating of what’s going on in the family affairs, I was tasked to take pictures of each love ones’ tombs. I find it quite morbid and melancholic as I am used to taking lively and colorful photos before.

Bring to Mind Love Ones Who Went Ahead

Never did I realize that there was a deeper reason to be more than just taking pictures of tombstones. It’s made me remember that these people once roamed the place where I am standing, and now they’re at least six feet below the ground locked in a cold and lonely cemented box. It is morbid to think about tombs anyway. But beyond the melancholy of it all, it made me think and remember that the very reason most of the people who are visiting the dead are not just there to pay a visit, but it is a way of expressing their love despite the reality that the very people they come to visit cannot and will not be able to interact and exchange greetings with them anymore. Such unconditional love that brings them back to visit their departed loved ones, exerting efforts to even clean the tomb’s surrounding even if the grass are more than six feet tall. Still the effort to beautify the place and even put flowers is there. That is on top of the usual scheduled family get together.

I passed by a lonely looking tomb without any usual decorations, but a certain old woman sat and quietly stayed beside the grave. I don’t know what was she thinking or contemplating but what I’ve understood was her act of love was louder more than any words she might have spoken from a distance. Something touched my heart witnessing the old woman sat beside her loved ones’ grave.

Insensitive To Remember

How insensitive I was. I even forget the memory of my own departed family members even. It was so selfish to think more of the convenience compared to even spare some time this time thinking and reminiscing how they loved and took care of me. I asked myself what if I am in this place now. How will my children remember me at this time of the year? Will they have the time to recall or even visit my place of rest?

A radical person like me sometimes need to be reminded that there is a need to be deep-seated with family values especially in calling to mind people who were part of my life and who were instrumental in making who I am now. Honoring our departed loved ones is something that I need to teach my children as well. But what can I give if I don’t have that mind set of remembering the people who went ahead of us? Remembering our loved ones is not only just remembering, but it is a way to honor them.

After the quick self-assessment, I thank God for his love is everlasting. He gave me the opportunity to reset my mind set on the issue on remembering family members and friends who were once a blessing to me. How ungrateful I am, I realized. But thanks be to God, I was given another chance to change the way I think.

Choose To Honor

For this two-day experience of mine immersed in a place called cemetery, it did not only remind me of the need to be grateful and thoughtful.

And most of all, was able to come across with the recollection of God’s great love in unselfishly giving His only-begotten Son Jesus Christ to die for me in the cross and gave me another chance to live a life full of blessings and unmerited favor. That I was once ‘dead’ spiritually and separated from His grace. That I was no different from the very departed loved ones but because of His love, God remembered me even before I came to this world.

Remembering to honor is respect. He’s love for us and the need for us to love is worth remembering, day after day in our lives.

After checking with the funeral arranger go online to find those perfectly matching flowers.